Wednesday, 31 August 2016

Midweek Motivation || #singlebecause



Hello there my darlings,

So there was a hashtag trending a while back called #singlebecause. Many of you may have seen this or even been a part of it! This is actually a topic I was thinking about writing about anyway. I currently have a couple of friends in situations when it comes to the love life department & I also have not been so lucky myself recently (What are you going to do right?) So it kind of has been a subject that has been on the forefront of my mind.

Why do we do it to ourselves eh? We fall for our first loves, get our heart broken (majority of the time) pick ourselves back up & then try to do it all over again! Why? You would think we would learn our lesson but no, no, off we go, into the next disaster.... If you ask me we do it for many reasons. Anthropologically speaking we are programmed to do so. Our bodys have the same instinct as any other animal on this earth - to reproduce & to keep our species alive. Secondly we are a social species. We enjoy company & it fills our heart with joy to share our experiences with someone. Having someone around makes us feel safe & loved. Society has deemed it proper to have a significant other & I think we are only coming to an era where being single after a certain age is actually socially acceptable. 

I find it funny that whether it is at the forefront or whether it is sub-conscious we (if single) are constantly on the look out for our next love story. This causes many complications.

First off the media has totally changed the view of relationships for people. It idealises it in movies & social media #relationshipgoals , This means people are expecting so much more perfectionism & find it harder to deal with the reality of it - which is life is messy! 

Secondly - On the hunt for prince charming you are probably going to kiss many a frog - this means baggage. Lets face it, everyone's got it. Which means our view of life & relationships has slightly altered since the days of puppy love, making googly eyes across a room & passing around notes. We try not to but we all do it & we all have it. I think the best think you can do is be aware of your baggage & do the best you can to not let it destroy any new love.

Thirdly - Something I think what a lot of people forgot about is that your body & your mind look for a partner in different ways. Your body responds to hormones & pheromones, in other words who is the ideal mate to reproduce with. Your body is not monogamous, as harsh as that sounds (Dont get me wrong, respect & loyality is everything to me & would never put up with cheating) This is fact. Your brain however wants a mate who is loving, caring, shares the same interests, morals, values and intellectual standing. Your body does not care about this. I think this causes conflict within people without them even realising. 

Finally - I think modern society has made the dating world harder than ever before. Reality Tv shows encourage playing the field, so to speak. They glorify sex & more often than not exclude any thoughts of love, romance & chivalry. There is also too much choice now with the globalisation of the world through travel & social media. In the old days, in our grandparents time, they didnt travel very far. They fell in love with people from their area & their marriages lasted decades! Divorce is more common now & if you ask me some people are not putting as much thought into marriage because they know they can just get divorced! I fully believe in divorce & believe it is needed but I think people are making marital decisions a bit too lightly due to its availability.       




About 4 years ago (after yet another relationship fail) I made a promise to myself not to get into another relationship until I knew he was worth it, real deal, in it for the long haul. I have met many young men in this time & gotten to know them, however none them were for me or what I was looking for. It will happen, I have every faith in that but none of them were right. My life is important & therefore it is important who I spent in with & include in it (even when it comes to friends)

The main reason I wanted to talk about this is because it has really come to my attention That sometimes people really dont know their worth & are willing to put up with alot in order to be with the person they love. I think compromise is essential & if you are with someone you should be willing to go to hell and back for them. Give the relationship your all!! Otherwise what is the point but sometimes you are better off single. What I have just said only works if both parties are doing this! You need to be a team, willing to fight on the front line together, willing to take on the world & whatever life throws at you, while also enjoying everything it has to offer! Im kind of getting sick of watching people put their all into relationships while their partner takes it all for grant or does not treat them with the love & respect that they deserve. 

I refuse to do this. I would rather be single. I know they love them but I think It would hurt in the beginning but they would be so much happier in the end. You only get one life!! Why spend it being miserable with someone?? I think these past 4 years have been good for me! It was never intended to be 4 years & I have no set intention on how long it will be for... my stint in singletown could end in another four years... could end tomorrow. I will tell you though I have learned alot about myself, my baggage & what I am & not willing to put up with & I think that will help create the basis for a fantastic relationship in the future #fingercrossed

What are your thoughts on this topic?

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Monday, 29 August 2016

2016 Goals & Resolutions Review || Beauty La Linda ~Lifestyle


Hey Friends,

So its been a minute! Yesterday I published a little catch up post on where I have been the past couple of months, so if you would like to check that out you can just click here -> Life Update || Where have I been & where am I going!?

Anywhooo Today I would like to do a little post re-evaluating all the goals & resolutions I set myself all the way back in January (Seems simultaneously like Yesterday & forever ago! Weird huh?). In doing this I can see how far I have come and also how much I have yet to do!! If you want to read the original post from January 2016 you can click here -> 2016 - Goals & Resolutions

I saw a similar post recently & remembered my goals & resolutions that I had set out for myself. It seems crazy to think of how much has actually changed in the past year! It actually blows my mind a little bit to think about it! Anyway enough with the rambling, lets jump right in!!-


YouTube & Blogging

Right so... In the beginning of the year I was really hitting my stride. I seemed to have a good schedule & routine, both working & blogging full-time... however this all changed around march when I moved three and half hours away to a completely new home, job & just general way of life. This threw my whole routine out the window!! Now I did still post but not as regularly as I had in the past. I was just trying to figure out my new life to be honest.....#badblogger! Most recently I have not had the time, energy or focus to put into my little blogs is because I am currently working towards a greater purpose... which is to do blogging full-time. Nothing excites & terrifies me more than the thought of going it alone and getting to put 100% of my time and energy into my passion!

Another thing I mentioned that I wanted to do in this category was to write a post every month on all the wonderful things that happened in that month! This is a concept that I love & although I seem to only manage to post them every 2 months rather than every month (June & July will be up next monday!) I still love doing them! Also the great thing about them is that I get to look back over the months & see all the great things that happened over the year. Its kind of like a little happiness online journal for me!!       


Plan something to look forward to each month

Now I cant say I have been keeping track to be honest but I think subconsciously I have been doing this because honestly I have had one of the best summers I have ever had. Sure I have had some not so great days & drama here and there... who hasnt? But all in all its been a fantastic summer & one I will not forget in a hurry!!


Find a nice place to live

I have to admit I did this accidentally.. I currently live in one of the most beautiful places in the world (without a shadow of a doubt) & although I will be leaving here soon it will definitely not be for long! I will be back!! However I do not live in my ideal house or in the ideal way I want to live, that is without roomates (absolutely no disrespect to them) & with a dog. That will all happen in time to come no doubt but the area I have moved to and the community I now live in #love! 


Getting healthier

Food wise in general I have been eating healthier & I have been really enjoying it. However exercise wise I really haven't been doing much at all or taking advantage or the beautiful surroundings I currently live in. Maybe I could start some fitness class in the winter when I get back to the city!?


Organisation

Oh its never ending really isnt it? I mean I feel like I sort one thing out and then an avalanche of new stuff just pops out of nowhere and goes "Oh Hey!, There you are! I have been waiting for you!?" hmmfh! But alas we must keep going, keep on struggling! We will get there! I think in the past year so far I have been doing ok but definitely need to up my game in certain areas (Blogging for example... #monkeycoveringfaceemoji I will persevere however & slowly but surely I will get there #nevergiveup




Getting my car sorted

Success!! Woop Woop!! I now have my little (very little) baby parked outside ready to tend to all my driving and motoring needs. Cost me a fortune if Im honest between purchasing the car, tax, insurance, petrol, new tyres & all other maintenance that has to be carried out but I have to say... It IS worth it. There is nothing like having the freedom of your own car, being able to travel at your own leisure. I wish they were less expensive but I definitely think they are worth the investment (although I suppose this is dependent on your own lifestyle needs) 




So there you have my August 2016 update report on my goals & resolutions from January 2016!! 

Leave me a comment down below & let me know any updates on your 2016 goals & resolutions! I would love to hear how you are getting on!!


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Sunday, 28 August 2016

Life Update || Where have I been & Where am I going?


Hello Friends,

Welcome back! I have been MIA for a little while now I just wanted to write a little post here to check in with you guys a reassure that my time away from the blogging world will not be for much longer.

Now I can give you all the usual excuses that people always say which is I have been super busy & have not had a minute to myself (which is true, even the people in my real life are wondering if I have dropped off the face of the earth. No joke I had my entire family ring & text me one day to make sure I was still alive because it had been almost 2 weeks since they had heard from me! Crazy I know but I have been that busy that I had not had a chance to check in with them either)

Anyway Thats beside the point my little Haidas from the internet will only be for a short while longer. Please bare with me. I will be back soon. The reason I cant put the time and energy that I wish to right now is because I am trying to work it out so that maybe by October I will have the chance to do this full time. I will finally be able to pursue my passion & put 100% of my energy into blogging & possibly Youtube. Unfortunately in order to do this I have to put many plans in place so that I can ensure that I will be able to survive without working. Ive also got to make a decision on where I am going to live and all that jazz. I have 2 months to prepare for this. Being an adult hard!  

So in order to be able to put my all into this I have to take a couple of months at most to sort everything out. I will get there! & I will be back fighting fit & ready to rock & roll!! I actually cant wait but I am terrified at the same time!! At the moment I am currently making plans for the coming year as regards to all things blogging as I intend on coming back with a bang (haha) 

I will try to have atleast one post up a week for the foreseeable future & then hopefully we can get back to schedule with both the beauty & lifestyle blogs!    

Thank you for your continued love & support

I will be back very soon my friends,

Love you all,

Wednesday, 13 July 2016

Midweek Motivation || Look for the moments of wonder & happiness!



Hey there everybody!

Today I want to talk about looking for the moments of wonder in our lives. Life is stressful, end of! Unfortunately everyone deals with stress and everybody has their story. This is not necessarily a bad a thing as it makes you who you are! However whether you have been quite fortunate in life or not we all experience the daily struggles in life.

Life is not always stressful. Its not all doom & gloom. I think people need to focus on this alot more than the former. How would you know what great experiences were if you didn't experience the not so good times? I believe completely in living the best and happiest life you can. You only get one! remember that! You cannot always be in control of the cards you are dealt but you are in control of you reaction to them! 

Dont let stress of daily life consume you. If you really think about it, we as race, created this world we live & have created majority of the stress of lives. We have created this lifestyle which means something always needs to be done. Life isnt meant to be this way! 

Everyone is so caught up in their own lives on a day to day basis they forget to look at the bigger picture. Your live is over in the blink of an eye. Soon you will be long gone, as will your children & grandchildren. Im looking at this in perspective of how long the earth has existed. Sooner than you think the bills wont exist, the day to day struggles will have been passed on to the next generation. For me this seems bleak. 

I want to pass on to them all the wondrous things this world & lifetime has to offer! Nature, people, culture, music, experiences! I want to tell my children & grandchildren of all the amazing things in the world & amazing stories, not how many bills I've paid! 






I am in noway saying you should go f*!k it and through all responsibility to the side, just try to make sure to the best of your ability that the good times out weigh the stress & most importantly unnecessary stress. As an anxious person believe me when I say, sometimes this is easier said than done, but it can be done!!            

When we start to think about all the things we dont have, stop! & start to think about all the things we do have! Appreciate the people in your live who enhance it. Plan fun things to do & have something to look forward to. Be open to new people, new experiences, new ideas. Spend quality time with yourself. Pursue your interests..... you only get one life!! 

Sometimes I think the best way of looking at the world is through the eyes of a child. They are unaware (or should be) of how harsh and cold the world can be as an adult. They dont worry about work, bills, dating, appointments, drama, feuds, backstabbing, banking crisis, terrorists, wars, poverty or the horrible  crimes we are bombarded with on social media. They are innocent and see the world the way it was intended. Magical, fun & look upon it full of wonder. 

Im not saying we should be oblivious but mark my words, try and do this more often & you will see the world in a whole new light! This planet really is beautiful and we really need to stop taking it & our lives for granted!!  





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Monday, 27 June 2016

Monthly Highlights 2016 - April & May



Hello Everyone!!

So it looks like I have been lacking with this whole monthly highlight series thing as once again I have to put 2 months together... #pleaseforgiveme! But as I said before I love the thought and idea behind this series so I will persevere. Here are a few things that have made me happy in the past 2 months! 

April  


My Birthday!

I turned 26! No longer mid - twenties.... well teetering very close to late twenties. I went on a road trip with one of my besties home where I spent a couple of days with my family which was great!! Sun shining, music blaring!! #happiness & I got spoiled rotten!! What more could a girl want!? I have the BEST family & friends!! (Except for the fact that as a joke they decided to put a 30th birthday candle on my cake.... hmm.... very funny ...... hah)   

Best Friends Visiting!

Two of my best friends decided to visit me for a couple of days which was fantastic! We decided to explore!! It was so much fun chilling out with them! I almost forgot just how much I missed them & now that Im thinking about them again I miss them again!! Hopefully they willl be back to visit me soon!!

Other Smaller highlights

  • Meeting an awesome band "The Swinging Travelers" & attending their gigs. So talented!!
  • Road Trips!! Loving the driving!!
  • Walks on the beach



May

This is the month where I really feel like I found my feet in my new home & surroundings. This month I have really started to feel comfortable & happy living here.  

Seeing Friends

I decided to take a spontaneus trip home & visited all the friends I had not seen in months & been missing! It was so good (However I will say I will not be announcing when I am home ever again as it is a LOT of pressure to get around to see everyone. Its much more relaxed if you just tell one or two people and decide what you want to do when you are actually home rather than getting pulled and dragged in a thousand directions & risk upsetting people when its physically impossible to see them. Lesson Learned!)



The Weather

We have been soooo lucky here in Ireland the past couple of weeks!! The sun has been shining almost none stop almost to the point that you may actually think you were in another country!! Its been amazing! Soaking up all that vitimin D! Yes Please! 



Other Smaller Highlights

  • Seeing the vintage car rally
  • Making some really good friends  
  • Going to  new Asian restaurant that opened up in a town near me with one of my besties!
  • Spending a few days in my home town & catching up with the people I love
  • Catchin up on Youtube! Really enjoyed catching up on all my subscriptions
  • Picked up 2 really cute phone covers from pennys! (if you follow me on Instagram you will already have seen them) Check them out here - More Issues than Vogue & Gold & Glittery
  • Staying overnight in a beautiful city hotel for a night with one of my besties!!
  • Shopping in Pennys / Primark! Haul coming soon on my Beauty Blog!!   Beauty La Linda - MUA Be sure not miss it!!








* I have one low note... well sort of, a girl I become really close friends with in my time here in my new home/area has moving back to her home country, But the happiness is that I met her in the first place! I have no doubt we will stay firm friends!!! Miss you loads hun!!



I also want to apologise for this post not being very picture heavy but I had a look back over my photos from the past couple of months & realised I had taken hardly any... oops... & not very like me as my phone is choco- blocked with photos to the point where today I thought to myself "I really must clean out my photos in my phone as I am surprised I have any space at all!" Oh well... Nonetheless I still wanted to share all my happiness with you!!   



Wednesday, 22 June 2016

Midweek Motivation || When It rains It Pours....



Heya!

Why is it everything always seems to come at once!? Bills, deadlines, random issues, personal issues, weddings or events that are going to cost you a bomb! At the moment Im dealing with a raining/pouring situation!  

The reason I want to talk about this today is because, once again I am sure I am not the only one in this situation! It can get a bit over whelming & hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. However we must train ourselves to think differently about our situation for many reasons - 
  1. While we are wishing for it all to be over we are also wishing our life, away without realising it. We are never going to be this age or have this time ever again!
  2. Because we become so focused on the things we have to fix (Yes they are important & do need attention) we are missing out on all the great things that are happening at the same time!! We are forgetting to appreciate people, places & the general good things happening in each of our lives.
  3. Stress is not good for anyone! & if you anything like me your anxiety will sky rocket!! This can not only take its toll on you mentally but also physically too!! (I have a knot in my back that I CANNOT get rid of!)


Here are a few tips I have for dealing with times like this


  • Dedicate a certain amount of time to go through all the problems you are currently having. Write out a list of things you need to fix, do or organise & then write down any solutions or plans of action to resolve them.
  • Apart from this time try not to think about it unless you can do something about it. Easier said than done I agree but the less you over think about it the more likely things will naturally just happen and every now & then they will actually fall in your favour! 
  • If some thing seems unachievable then set small goals & before you know it that main goal you had in the beginning will suddenly be much more achievable.
  • Take down time for you. Do something that makes you happy or relaxed even if its just for half an hour! You will feel a little more refreshed and much better after it (For me one of these things is writing)
  • Try & get sleep. Your body, mind & soul repair themselves at night! When times are stressful you need all the help you can get so dont skimp on the sleep. It will help you cope with stress & important decision making & organisation skills during the day!
  • Eat well! Again easier said than done but the better the fuel the better the performance!
  • Stop comparing your life! We live in a social media world which means we all fall victim to the green eyed monster! We are especially vulnerable when things in our own lives may not be going so well. This is not at time to feel sad & jealous, this is a time to feel motivated & inspired by these people!!    
  • Realise that most things in life are not life and death therefore, like everything else this will too pass and more than likely in a few months time you wont even remember this!
  • Take a moment and think about all that you do have and all that you are grateful for. If you do this I guarentee you will feel a hell of a lot better.
  • Think about your problems with a positive spin - Trust me! For example 
  1. Car Problems? - I have a car
  2. Work problems? - I have a job
  3. Friend problems? - They love me really, I love them too... this will be resolved! I also learn how I really feel about them! 
  4. Money Problems? - Learn how to save & find more creative ways to spend time & have fun!
  5. Did something stupid? - I leaned a valuable lesson not to be repeated! 
  • It sounds harsh but majority of the time someone else has it worse off than - you try not to forget that!! 
  • Finally as hard as it seems just keep swimming! Keep working your way towards whatever it is - moving slowly is 100 times better than not moving at all!!









I feel like there comes points in our life where we have to stop take a look around and go right it may take some time but I can do this!! I cant leave whatever this is get the better of me!! It can and will be fixed!! Cliche as it is life is a journey & from all our experiences both good & bad we grow!! Keep fighting, hustling, moving & swimming and soon you will feel like you are #winningatlife. Will it be easy? No but the best things in life never are & IT WILL BE WORTH IT!!!


Bye bye my lovelies!!!
Loves you all x
Chat soon x




         








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Thursday, 12 May 2016

Midweek Motivation || Whats meant to be wont pass you by!



Hello There Everyone!!

Hands up now! Whos heard this saying before? I have, but I never really thought about it until recently. Anyone who knows me will know that I am not very religious but I am a big believer in the universe & energy. 

Lately I have been feeling a bit off balance & a bit out of whack to be honest. I was beginning to doubt my decision to pack up & move my life. My anxiety has been playing up a bit & I was close to running home again!

However after taking a breather I decided to look back at all the reasons I decided to come here in the first place, look at all the things I love about the place & remember the goals I had for being down here. Funny thing is when I thought back I remembered how random it was that the opportunity even came up, how everything had fallen into place at the time for this all to happen & I remembered this saying "Whats meant to be wont pass you by!" I cant help but feel this is true. I feel like I was meant to come down here. I was meant to meet these people and discover this part of the world.





The reason I wanted to talk about this today is because I am sure that I cant be the one person in the world that is second guessing a decision that they have made or maybe feeling a bit homesick? So I thought I would share what helped me. My advice would be, first of all get a good nights sleep (It really clears the mind) Then go somewhere you feel calm (this could even be your bedroom) Then think of all the reasons you made the decision in the first place - Are all the reasons still valid?? Then think about all the benefits of the decision you have made or all the things you like about it. After you should have a much clearer view of where you think you are headed or if its time to make a new decision for your own best interest. Ive said it before & I will say it again! You only have one life!! Dont waste it being miserable! Do whats best for you & enjoy it to the max!



I hope this may have help one of you!! Please, If you have any tips yourself share them with us in the comment section below!!


Chat Soon x




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